Current Article Previous Article Next Article First Article Contact Me Home

Misdiagnosis

July 29, 2010 09:10:09 pm

Yesterday my six year old informed me that she didn't love me. The direct quote is "this is why I don't love you" screamed at me, as she stormed up the stairs to her room, which she was supposed to be cleaning.

And had Not Been Cleaning for an hour.

Her friends were at the door wanting her to play. I said she had things to do before she could play.

So I was totally brave for about 20 minutes before I just sat on the couch and cried. I'm one of those insecure unstable people who is easily convinced that no one loves her.

So to actually hear it is quite painful.

So we (Jay and I) decided that her friends were the problem, some of the new sphere is quite older than her and some of them have very different home lives. So we decided to trim it down to her age group, and those we are weary of are welcome in our home, in our presence.

Because it has to be the peer group. It can't have anything to do with the fact that I've been ignoring the issue of the missing frog and acting like it's business as usual.

Tomorrow I guess I'm going to have to rip that bandaid off and talk about it. I guess I'm just stumped. We never found a dead frog, and yet we have only one frog. We came home from vacation and he was just gone. I guess I assumed she wouldn't notice? Or because she was quiet about it she didn't care?

I'm still sticking to the new plan with peers. But I'm also thinking she might not love me because I don't deal with issues head on and rather hope that they'll just go away. And honestly sometimes I don't love me because of the way I skirt issues.